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Heart-Steps Therapy 9

This Heart-Steps Therapy will help you to learn to love yourself by repairing your damaged sense of self and distorted belief system of what you believe to be true about yourself and the world. It also will help you to repair your maladaptive coping skills and behavior patterns.


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HST 10
Your Story
You need to identify if you were abused.
While Healing and in Recovery
You need to understand...
Were you abused?
Wait. Before you answer, do you remember my story of abuse?
So were you abused?
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Therapy Sessions

If you would like to make an appointment, please Email: thepsycheworkshop@gmail.com and write “Session” in the subject area. I did see people in-person from 1990 to 2004 however I do not do in-person sessions anymore so in your email please state how you would like to communicate. You don’t have to use your real name initially. All sessions are private and confidential. And always remember you are not and never will be alone.


Graphic Tales of No Male Sexual Dysfunctions but the Probability Exists

Graphic Tales Of Male Sexual Dysfunctions

Graphic Tales of Fetishes

Graphic Tales of Male Sexual Dysfunctions and Fetishes

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Graphic Tales of No Male Sexual Dysfunctions but the Probability Exists

A patient said that ...

 1. he has a fantasy that his mother-in-law invites him over under the guise that she needs him to move furniture. When he arrives, she is standing in the doorway totally nude. She pulls him in by his tie and takes him to the bedroom, telling him that her daughter does not know how to please him sexually as she will.
 2. he and his wife make love only twice a month because she said she does not like the way he approaches her.
3. he is a homosexual and is distressed and conflicted because he feels he should marry and have children.
4. his wife wanted him to have sex with her male cousin. She wouldn’t take no for an answer, and so he finally agreed. To his surprise, he liked it very much and wanted to do it again, but his wife gave him an angry no. He then suggested to her that he buy a dildo for her to use on him, but she gave him another angry no. His wife told him that she wanted him to like it, but not that much. She now refuses to have anything to do with him.
5. since his wife will make love maybe three times a year, and he will not cheat on her, he has no choice but to masturbate even though he feels it’s immoral.
6. his wife always tells him that she doesn’t want him, but that she’s stuck with him.
7. he and his wife divorced after being married for twenty years because she wanted to be married but also she wanted her freedom. He’s concerned about his behavior because over the past three years, he has had sex with many women because he’s avoiding relationships so that he doesn’t get hurt again.
8. his wife left him, because he forced her to be a part of what she called perverted sex.
8. because he is sick, he’s afraid if he makes love it will make his illness worse, or that he will even die.
10. he is very shy. He was dating an older woman and bought her an engagement ring. She refused, stating she was already divorced once and would never marry again. She then ended the relationship with him. He believes his girlfriend ended the relationship, because when they made love, he was very nervous.
11. he has a problem communicating with women. He has never really dated or made love, because he has a great fear of rejection. He is sexually confused.
12. he has a new girlfriend and is afraid he will not sexually satisfy her.
13. he is so afraid of getting a sexually transmitted disease that he wears three condoms even when he’s just kissing.

Graphic Tales of Male Sexual Dysfunctions

A patient said that ...
1. when he makes love, either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates immediately, when he thinks about his childhood.
2. though he wants to cuddle, it’s difficult for him to be physically close to a woman. He feels repulsed when he makes love.
3, since his wife found out that he had an affair, when he makes love with her, he loses his desire, he does not get an erection, and he ejaculates too quickly. He’s afraid now that she will be unfaithful to him.
4. he does not like to be touched. He is verbally abusive to his wife and rejects her in every way. He said he masturbates to avoid making love, because when he makes love, he ejaculates quickly. He wishes he was still with his first wife because she was not interested in sex at all because she had been raped.
5. since he became his girlfriend’s caretaker, when they make love, he does not have any desire, he cannot get an erection, and he ejaculates immediately.
6. even though he hates it, he just cannot stop mistreating his wife and their children in the same way he was mistreated. He said when he makes love with his wife, he is sexually dysfunctional.
7. he does not love his wife but is staying with her because he does not want to be alone as when he was a child. When he and his wife make love he is unable to get an erection and does not have any desire to make love.
8. he feels awkward about affection and does not like to be touched. He said he behaves like his father by not having respect for women, such as, when they’re together, if they see a pretty woman they both say they would like ‘to stick it to her’. He feels that women are emotionally dangerous and you cannot trust them.  He said use to like ‘bad girls’ because you can just have sex with them and they can’t hurt you. He has an aversion to making love and does not have any desire.
9. since his wife stopped working, when they make love, he has an erection problem.
10. since his girlfriend showed him their baby daughter’s vagina, saying look at her little pussy, when they make love, he is unable to get an erection. He cannot stop thinking about when his daughter is an adult, men will want to have sex with her. He said he felt that his penis was too small and had surgery to elongate it. After the healing there was so much scar tissue, his penis looks smaller than it was before. He is afraid his girlfriend will leave him.
11. when he was married he was unfaithful to his wife because he didn’t want to ask her to do certain sexual acts, because it would have been disrespectful. Since then when he’s in a relationship with someone he cares about, he is sexually dysfunctional, but when he has casual sex, he is sexually fine.
12. he has given up hope about most things in life. He’s self-destructive. He feels ashamed and humiliated because of his appearance. He does not date anymore because he feels his penis is too small. He said when he makes love, he is sexually dysfunctional.
13. he fantasizes about his mother to be able to attain and maintain an erection.
14. he is afraid of women and when he makes love, he is sexually dysfunctional. When he masturbates, he is sexually fine.
15. he is so afraid to trust women, but he needs closeness and affection. He said he obsesses about issues that cause anxiety before he makes love, and then when he makes love, he has an erection problem. He has feelings of hopelessness about ever resolving his sexual dysfunction.
16, when he makes love, he is unable to keep his erection, and unable to ejaculate, unless if he watches pornographic films. He’s concerned about his penis size.
17. since he had surgery to improve his sperm count because he and his wife wants to have a baby, when he makes love, he loses his erection, and it takes a very long time for him to ejaculate.
18, since he married his wife and she insisted he use condoms, when they make love, he is sexually dysfunctional. When he is with other women, even when he uses condoms, he is sexually fine.
19. he does not trust women at all. He feels that his self-esteem is always at risk. Still he must always be in a relationship, even if it’s not good because this is better than being lonely and alone, especially that he has a great fear of rejection. He said he was arrested for using and selling drugs. He spent eighteen months in a rehabilitation center and six months in jail. He said when he makes love, he has an erection problem on and off, and either he is unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates quickly and so he prefers masturbation to making love.
20. he has much resentment toward women. He does not like to masturbate, but this is the only way he can get an erection and ejaculate. He has made love only once and now the woman is claiming he made her pregnant.
21. when he makes love, as soon as he gets the feeling to ejaculate, he loses his erection, and then he is unable to ejaculate.
22. when he makes love with his wife he has an erection problem and cannot ejaculate since he found out she was having a lesbian affair. He’s afraid he will not be able to trust another woman after this deception.
23. since his girlfriend gave him a deadline to get married, when they make love, he has an erection problem, and is unable to ejaculate. He said he loves her, but feels he is not ready for that kind of a commitment.
24, his marriage to his wife ended after the death of their daughter. He felt he had to be away from everything familiar. His wife told him he would never find a woman to please him sexually as she had done. Since then, when he makes love, he has an erection problem, and is unable to ejaculate.
25.when he makes love, he loses his erection, and either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates immediately, unless if he fantasizes that he’s in a corporate meeting with a woman who is dressed in a business suit. He cannot take his eyes off the garters and the tops of her stockings that are exposed. Three or four times she stands up telling him in a business tone of voice to unbutton his shirt, which he does. She then opens his pants and begins to masturbate him, then closes his pants, buttons his shirt, and says to sit down. She continues talking about business and then in the end she masturbates him to ejaculation.
26. he is very depressed because he and his wife have serious marriage problems and may not be able to work them out. He said when they make love she pressures him and complains that either he ejaculates too quickly or it takes too long, or that he doesn’t get an erection immediately. He blames her for his sexual dysfunctions because when he’s with other women, he’s sexually fine.
27. his first wife was murdered and he is divorced from his second wife. Since his girlfriend was arrested for murder, when he makes love, he has an erection problem, and he either takes a long time to ejaculate or is unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly.
28. since his mother-in-law died two years ago, his wife has closed him out. When she refused his suggestion of marriage counseling, he threatened to leave even though he knew he would stay with her because he still loves her. He said when they make love he is sexually dysfunctional, since he started to have feelings of resentment and guilt.
29. since he and his wife moved in with her family to save money to buy a house, when they make love, he is sexually dysfunctional.
30. since he was circumcised five years ago, when he makes love, he is sexually dysfunctional.
31. he has a problem maintaining his erection, and either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly, when he makes love with women who remind him of his fiancé who left him at the altar many years ago.
32. he might be unfaithful to his wife because he wants to go to swing clubs or be involved in a threesome and she does not. He said when they make love, he has a very hard time getting an erection and either he are unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly.
33. he is repulsed since he found out that his wife is bisexual. He said when they make love, he is unable to get an erection, and ejaculates instantly.
34. he believes it is his fault that his wife verbally abuses him just like his mother did when he was a child. He said when they make love, either he has delayed ejaculation, or he is unable to ejaculate.
35. since he found out that his girlfriend had an abortion, when they make love, he has a weak erection, and he ejaculates quickly. He said he feels sick to his stomach because even though he was not ready to be a father, he believes abortion is murder.
36. since the last few women he has been with have complained to him that intercourse hurts because his penis curves, he has a negative attitude about making love. Still he does want to make love, and when he does, he has a weak erection, and ejaculates right away.
37. when he makes love, he has an erection on and off, and he ejaculates too quickly. He said his favorite fantasy is that he’s a waiter at a bridal shower in which all of the women are virgins. He begins to serve them, and then one by one they gasp as they see his enormous penis sticking is out of his pants. Though they are in shock, they all beg him to touch his penis and put it inside of them.
38. since he went out with a married woman, when he makes love, he has an erection problem, and either it takes him a very long time to ejaculate, or he is unable to ejaculate. He said after dinner, they made love on the living room floor even though he was very nervous that her husband might come home, or that her children might wake up.
39. he does not blame his ex-wife for divorcing him because he hurt her and their daughters. He said to alleviate his guilt he allows them to take financial advantage of him. He said since his wife left him about six years ago, he has not been able to ejaculate when he makes love. He wants to find a woman who just wants to cuddle and is not interested in sex just like him.
40. he was in a relationship with a woman who would never hold his hand or otherwise be affectionate. She just wanted him for sex and told him so. When they made love, he was never able to ejaculate during intercourse.
41. when he makes love he is unable to ejaculate, since he and his wife have decided to have a baby.
42. he is still a virgin. He feels sexually inadequate because he does not have a large penis. When he masturbates, he is unable to ejaculate.
43. he feels he needs training in how to sexually please a woman. He feels that he is supposed to know everything about sex and to know what women want, which he does not know. He said to cover up his inadequacy when he makes love with his girlfriend he focuses only on what she tells him to do. During this time he gets the feeling to ejaculate on and off. After his girlfriend has an orgasm, it takes him a long time to ejaculate, or he does not ejaculate.
44. he has to work about eighty hours a week to support his family. His wife complains that he does not help her with their five young children. He said since he started to ejaculate in seconds when they make love, his wife has refused to make love with him anymore stating she can’t stand the sexual dysfunction. She told him that she is looking at other men and wonders what it would be like to be with a real man.
45. since his twin daughters starting to sleep in the same bedroom with him and his wife, when they make love, he ejaculates within minutes.
46. since his girlfriend moved in, he has lost all interest in her. He said when they make love, either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates instantly.
47. since his wife demanded he ejaculate within seven to ten minutes, when they make love, either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly. He is sexually fine when he uses the phone sex lines.
48. because of all his failed relationships, he has attempted suicide twice and had a nervous breakdown. The first time he took pills and the second time he cut his wrists. He’s very afraid that he won’t find a woman who will love him. He has great difficulty in meeting women, and then finally when he does, he is clingy and dependent. He said when he makes love, either he has delayed ejaculation, or he ejaculates quickly.
49. since his wife gained weight, when he makes love with her, he takes a very long time to ejaculate. When he’s with other women, he ejaculates too quickly.
50. since his girlfriend insisted they watch a horror movie, when they make love, either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates quickly. In the movie, a man rapes a woman and then forces her down to her knees to do oral sex to him. At this part of the movie, his girlfriend started to do oral sex to him. In the movie the woman bites off a piece of the man’s penis, and at this part in the movie, his girlfriend dug her nails into his penis and then bit him. He has a fear of losing his penis.
51. since he told his wife he wants divorce, when he makes love, he is sexually dysfunctional.
52. since his girlfriend laughed at him when they made love, he feels sexually inadequate. He has been sexually dysfunctional.
53. since he had a penile implant, he is unable to ejaculate. He’s upset that he has not had sex for about two years because his wife is not interested and his girlfriend has left him.
54. his girlfriend is not affectionate. When they make love, he loses his desire, he has an erection problem, and is either unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates within a minute.
55. since he lost his job a few months ago, when he makes love, he does not have any desire, and he ejaculates within a minute or two.
56. he wants to have sex more frequently than his wife does. She always agrees to make love when he wants to, but if she’s not interested, she reads a book and says he should hurry up and get it over with. He then loses his desire, and either he is unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates right away. He is sexually fine when he masturbates and is not so concerned then if his penis is big enough.
57. he fantasizes about watching two women make love to be able to get an erection.
58. when he makes love with his wife he is unable to keep his erection unless she talks dirty.
59. since his wife passed away, when he makes love he feels guilty and loses his erection.
60. his childhood has left him with much anxiety. He also has a fear of abandonment, and because of this he will do whatever a woman wants. He has a problem expressing his anger even when it was appropriate. He takes the blame for everything because whenever anything goes wrong, he feels it’s always his fault. He said all of his past partners have cheated on him because he does not deserve to be with a beautiful woman. He added that even when he’s in a relationship, he feels lonely. He said when he makes love he cannot get an erection, and is unable to ejaculate. When he’s not in a relationship, he has to resort to masturbation, and then feels pathetic.
61. since he had a vasectomy two years ago, when he makes love, he is sexually dysfunctional.
62. he has only been in two relationships, and both women left him because they said they fell out of love with him. He said when he makes love, his erection is weak, and either he takes a long time to ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly. He said he suppresses sexual fantasies to be able to last longer. He thinks he will always have sexual problems. He has negative feelings about his penis.
63. even though he does not like the way his father mistreated his mother, he is following in his footsteps with his wife who was sexually abused when she was a child. He said when he makes love with his wife he has trouble ejaculating. When he is with other women, he ejaculates quickly, unless if he thinks about blood and guts to last longer.
64. he has recurrent nightmares that he kills his neighbor who sexually abused him He said he does not like anything about his appearance. He said he has always paid for sex and either he is unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly. Sometimes he masturbates.
65. since he started to fantasize about being seduced by his sister-in-law, when he makes love with his wife he cannot keep his erection, and he ejaculates quickly.
66. he’s afraid of women because they can make things happen or not happen to you. He’s not nice to his wife because she does not give him the unconditional love he needs. He always gives her the impression that he is being unfaithful. He said he feels that she puts up with him because she wants him at any cost rather than lose him however, she has started to retaliate. One night when he was drinking, she screamed that he was a drunk and then she swung around and hit him. He said he is sexually fine when he has sessions with pre-op transsexuals, when he’s anywhere from dominant to abusive, and when he masturbates fantasizing about a woman wearing a blindfold. When he makes love with his wife, he has an erection problem, and cannot ejaculate.
67. though he hates his mother, and is unable to make peace with her; he lives with her because he is unable to function on his own. He is very self-conscious about his demeanor because people make fun of him all the time. He does not have any friends. He is unable to hold down a job. He said he hasn’t dated in many years since he was in college and his girlfriend cheated on him. The only time he makes love, is when he sees a prostitute a few times a year, and then he cannot keep his erection or ejaculate.
68. when he makes love with his wife he has an erection problem. He’s concerned that his penis is too small. He said he is sexually aroused when he acts out his sexual abuse when he was a child. When he makes love with his wife he focuses on negative aspects of her so that he does not ejaculate quickly. He and his wife have been sexually experimenting with his brothers. He has had sex with his brothers, and they have all had sex with his wife.
69. he has attempted suicide. He’s angry because women have always rejected him. He’s attracted to women who have been abused. He said he is still a virgin because he remembers his father always told him that sex was dirty and disgusting. As of late, he stays away from women because he has an incontinence problem. He has been to many doctors for help, but they cannot find a medical base. He is sexually aroused when he acts out his sexual abuse when he was a child otherwise he cannot ejaculate.
70. when he attempts to make love with his wife, she just lies flat on the bed with her legs closed tight, laughing at him, telling him if he can get in, well then, he can get in, laughing when he loses his erection.
71. when he makes love with a nice woman he is unable to get an erection and ejaculate, because he feels guilty that they are not married. However, when he makes love with a slut type of woman, he is sexually fine.

Graphic Tales of Fetishes

A patient said that ...
1. he likes it when he sits at the feet of a woman and confesses that he has looked in her hamper and smelled her dirty pantyhose. As a punishment, he wants to be spanked.
2. he is sexually aroused by feet. One time when he went to his friend’s house, he could not stop looking at his friend’s mother‘s bare feet. When he couldn’t take it anymore, he went into her bedroom and masturbated, ejaculating in one of her shoes
3. he likes it when a woman steps on his penis with slippers, and then spanks him very hard.
4. he likes to be spanked, and then repeatedly hit, smacked, punched and kicked in the face.
5. he likes it when he is verbally humiliated, pushed down to the floor on his stomach, tied spread-eagled, spanked and told he cannot do anything right. He has a dream that one day he will be in training to be a submissive with a dominatrix.
6. he likes anal stimulation, verbal humiliation, when he is treated as a slut and a sissy boy, and when he is spanked.
7. he likes to be dominated by a woman while he is wearing black stockings, dressed in panties and a long skirt. He then wants to have his skirt pulled up over his head, have his panties pulled down to his ankles, and then forced to have anal sex with a strap-on dildo.
8. he likes to be called a dirty pig of a slut when he has anal sex with a strap-on dildo.
9. he wants a man to urinate on him.
10. he likes to have a woman urinate in his mouth, and then be spanked. He masturbates twice a day while fantasizing about his fetishes. He has conflicts about his fetishes.
 11. he wears women’s clothing, likes to be called a whore and a dirty slut and be spanked, have anal sex with a strap-on dildo, be tied in a chair, have his mouth is taped shut, and be blindfolded. He then wants photographs taken of him, and told that if he doesn’t obey, the pictures will be copied and handed out on the street. He also wants to be told that he will have a butt plug inserted in his anus because he’s a sissy boy.
12. he likes to be spanked very hard, and then tied in a chair and interrogated. When he refuses to speak, he wants to be tickled beyond his limit of endurance.
13. he likes to suck on a woman’s toes as she calls him a sissy boy.
14. he wears diapers to be sexually excited.
15. he likes it when balloons are rubbed on his penis while he masturbates. He then ejaculates on them and rubs the balloons on his face. He has used a variety of pay-for-sex services to express his fetish. Even though he knows that it’s out of control, he just cannot stop. He has great feelings of guilt because he cannot be honest about it with his girlfriend and his family. He has already spent thousands of dollars.
16. he likes to be tied up, blindfolded and spanked.
17. he wears stockings and heels and a harness. He likes nipple and cock and ball torture, wants to have anal sex with a strap-on dildo, have a woman give him an enema and then urinate on him.
18. he likes it when a vice is screwed tightly on his penis, when his nipples are pinched, when he is told he is a moron, an idiot, and just very stupid. This has been his way of life for the past seventeen years. He has never had any interest in making love.
19. he likes to have a tampon inserted into his anal area, wear a diaper and urinate in it, crawl around making baby sounds, and then be tied to a piece of furniture so that he cannot wander too far.
20. he wants to be spit on while he is being spanked.
21. he likes to have clothespins clipped up and down and all around his penis and testicles, and then one by one he has a dominatrix unclip them and pull them off quickly. He then gets a spanking, performs oral sex to a strap-on dildo and has anal sex with it. He wants to be pinched and bitten and told he is dirt and scum.
22. he is sexually aroused when he acts out any of the following scenarios. He pretends that he is a little girl who has menstrual cramps, is spanked and then his mother cuddles with him. He pretends that his mother spanks him when she catches him watching her masturbate and then she cuddles with him. He pretends that his mother makes him wear her panties after she catches him going through her panty draw. She then spanks him and cuddles with him.

Graphic Tales of Both Male Sexual Dysfunctions and Fetishes

A patient said that ...
1. he is sexually aroused when he wears any type of women’s clothing. When he makes love, he loses his desire to ejaculate.
2. since he started to date a sexually demanding woman, when he makes love with her, his body feels numb, and he has an erection problem. He has a fear of losing control over his sexual urges. He said he is sexually aroused by having his nipples tied together with a short string, so that when he stretches it hurts. He likes to wear a woman’s underwear and have anal sex with a strap-on dildo.
3. when he makes love with his wife, he loses his erection, and either it takes him a long time to ejaculate, or he ejaculates quickly. When he makes love with other women, he is sexually fine and can ejaculate five or six times. He is sexually aroused when he has anal sex with a strap-on dildo.
4. he is sexually aroused when he wears dresses, stockings and heels. When he makes love, either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly.
5. he is sexually aroused when a woman makes him wash her feet with his tongue, and then he dries them with her underwear. She then makes him wear her underwear, demanding he ejaculate in it. She then defecates on his face, telling him this is what he deserves. When he makes love, he ejaculates quickly.
6. he is sexually aroused when he wears his sister’s underwear. When he makes love, he has no desire, and he is unable to ejaculate.
7. since he married his wife he’s mad because he’s missing out on sexual experiences, and because of this, when they make love, he loses his desire. He said he is sexually aroused when he sees a woman’s bare feet and fantasizes about ejaculating on them.
8. when he makes love he has an erection on and off, unless if he is spanked until he bleeds.
9. he wears panties, likes to be spanked and have anal sex with a strap-on dildo. He said when he makes love, he does not have any desire, has a weak erection, and either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates quickly. He is sexually aroused when he masturbates holding his mother’s panties.
10. he is sexually aroused when he watches a woman dangle a shoe from her red manicured toes, drops the shoe on his penis, and then laughs at him as he licks the heel on the shoe. When he makes love, he has an erection on and off, and he ejaculates quickly.
11. he is sexually aroused when he does oral sex to a strap-on dildo. When he makes love, he cannot keep his erection.
12. his first relationship ended when he found out that his girlfriend cheated on him. His next girlfriend constantly hit him in the head with the handle of a knife and then cut him with it and also was verbally abusive, manipulative and controlling, such as, she would tell him if and when he could watch television. In his last relationship he wanted his girlfriend to dominate him.  She agreed but said he would have to pay her. He said he is very lonely. He also does not have any friends.  He said when he makes love, he has a weak erection. He is sexually aroused by spankings and having anal sex with a strap-on dildo.
13. he ejaculates immediately when he makes love with his girlfriend since she compared him to other men saying that the other men are a ‘ten’ and he is ‘barely a three’.
14. he is sexually aroused when a dominatrix wraps a sanitary pad around his penis and tells him that if he doesn’t ejaculate when she tells him to, she will cut him so he will bleed on the pad just like a woman. He said when he makes love, he cannot get an erection, and he ejaculates quickly.
15. he is sexually aroused when he peeps. When he makes love, he loses his desire, he loses his erection, and he loses the urge to ejaculate.
16. the relationship he had with his girlfriend was good but he just could not stop being unfaithful to her. She said she could have tolerated the cheating but broke up with him because he gave her herpes. Since then, when he makes love, he has very little desire, an erection problem, and either he cannot ejaculate, or he ejaculates very quickly. He is sexually aroused when he is spanked while performing oral sex on a couple of pre-op transsexuals. After they ejaculate on him, they slap him in his face with their penises and then beat him because they haven’t been able to penetrate him yet. After these sessions he curls up in a ball and feels disgusted with himself. He uses dildos on himself when he masturbates.
17. he is sexually aroused when he wears women’s bras and panties. When he makes love, he has an erection on and off.
18. he is sexually aroused when he is spanked, and then repeatedly hit, smacked, punched, and kicked in the face. When he makes love, he loses his erection, and either it takes him a long time to ejaculate, or he is unable to ejaculate.
19. he is sexually aroused when he wraps panties around his penis and masturbates as he licks in between a woman’s toes. When he makes love, he ejaculates quickly.
20. he was abused as a child. He said he is sexually aroused when he is spanked and told because he’s bad and has to get an enema. After that he likes to cross-dress and be urinated on. When he makes love, he ejaculates quickly.
21. he is sexually aroused when he is made to face the wall and told he is worthless. When he makes love, he has problems getting an erection, because he is dependent on his fetish to be sexually fine.
22. he is sexually aroused when he is made to have anal sex with a strap-on dildo and called a dirty pig of a slut. He stopped seeing a dominatrix after she chained him to the wall for a couple of days and had many men play with his penis and testicles. She then smacked his genitals with a heavy wooden paddle as she ridiculed him. He found out that she stole more than one hundred thousand dollars from him. He said since women have always laughed at his penis telling him it’s so tiny and cute like a baby’s penis, when he makes love, he has a weak erection, and cannot ejaculate.
23. his ex-wife is just like his abusive father. His children live with him and do not want to have any contact with their mother. He said he is sexually aroused when he wears a collar around his neck and a leather strap around his penis. He also likes to have a short rope tying the collar and strap together so that he is hunched over. He then likes to be quickly pulled around the room by the rope and made to wiggle. He wants to be told if he obeys, his penis will be pierced multiple times or cut off as a reward. He said when he makes love he has an erection on and off, and is unable to ejaculate.
24. when he and his wife make love he is unable to maintain his erection, and is unable to ejaculate. He is sexually aroused when he wears women’s clothing and accessories. He goes to nude beaches and fetish clubs and has been sexually involved with men when he is cross-dressed. One time when he was at the gym, he noticed a man was watching him. He went into the shower room with him and watched while the man masturbated.
25. he is drawn to dead-end relationships, such as he was involved with a few married women. He said he is sexually aroused when a dominatrix makes him have anal sex with a strap-on dildo, and then spanks him until he cries, all the time, calling him a slut. He knew he finally found his place in life because he does not have feelings of inadequacy anymore, even though he feels he is perverted because of his fetish. When he makes love, he has an erection on and off, and he ejaculates quickly.
26. he is sexually aroused when he wears women’s panties, has his hands tied behind his back, and has anal sex with a strap-on dildo. He wants to be in training with a dominatrix. When he makes love, he ejaculates quickly. He has always paid for sex.
27. he is sexually aroused when he cross-dresses. When he makes love, he has an erection on and off, and either he is unable to ejaculate, or he ejaculates too quickly. He feels that his fetish is causing the problem.





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Tears of My Family
Tears of My Family
Fact or Fiction: On February 12, 2011 my son, Joseph Lozito, was viciously attacked by Maksim Gelman on a New York City subway. This is my rendition of how the protect and serve aspect of the law is not law after all. Brothers Forever Together: My sister lost two of her children. Steven was 19 years old when he was died because of a drunk driver. Matthew was 1 year old when he died because of a medical malpractice. Michael is the brother who was able to survive the loss of his brothers. God bless you Michael. "Cremate me and throw my ashes down the sewer": This is about my brother Joseph.
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The Sad Truth about Elder Care
In February 2008 my mom became sick. Well my research left me in a fatal state of dismay and disgust. This is my research study about Nursing Homes / Rehabilitation Facilities.