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Heart-Steps Therapy 8
This Heart-Steps Therapy will help you to learn to love yourself by repairing your damaged sense of self and distorted belief system of what you believe to be true about yourself and the world. It also will help you to repair your maladaptive coping skills and behavior patterns.

Sex Therapy

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Therapy Sessions

If you would like to make an appointment, please Email: thepsycheworkshop@gmail.com and write “Session” in the subject area. I did see people in-person from 1990 to 2004 however I do not do in-person sessions anymore so in your email please state how you would like to communicate. You don’t have to use your real name initially. All sessions are private and confidential. And always remember you are not and never will be alone.


Sex Therapy for Male Sexual Dysfunctions

Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

Sexual Aversion Disorder

Male Erectile Disorder

Male Orgasmic Disorder

Premature Ejaculation

Combination Orgasmic Disorder

Sexual Dysfunctions when Masturbating

Sexual Dysfunctions when using Condoms

Sex Therapy Article

Male Sexuality Article

Sex Therapy Surrogate Services Article


Sex Therapy for Fetishes

These are the links to the other pages on the Psyche Workshop Website



Sex Therapy for Male Sexual Dysfunctions
Repair / Create / Enhance

Guidelines
 

  • Be consistent.
  • You must do the sex therapy exercises every other day or every third day at the most.
  • You must be mentally stimulated (e.g., fantasies, pornographic films, magazines) in the same way every time you do the sex therapy exercises.
  • You must do sex therapy exercises through masturbation because this is a non-pressure situation.
  • You must use the same lubricant (e.g., baby oil, KY Jelly) every time you do the sex therapy exercises because you need to simulate intercourse.

Multiple Sexual Dysfunctions Priority Order to Remedy


    When you have a single sexual dysfunction, then do that sex therapy exercise. However, if you have multiple sexual dysfunctions, there is a priority order in which the sex therapy exercises should be done in order to remedy all of the sexual dysfunctions.
 

  1. Sexual Aversion Disorder
  2. Premature Ejaculation
  3. Male Orgasmic Disorder
  4. Combination Orgasmic Disorder
  5. Male Erectile Disorder
  6. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder


You have little or no desire to make love.
You lose your desire before ejaculation when you make love.
 Your sexual urges, fantasies, or making love, are happening less than twice a month.


Note:
You do not need a partner for this sex therapy exercise and it is preferred you do this exercise alone. If you do have a partner, do not make love before, during or after this exercise because it will create anxiety!

 
  1. Mentally stimulate yourself.
  2. If you do not feel comfortable, then stop and try another day.
  3. If you do feel comfortable, then masturbate to orgasm.
  4. If you do not get that far, it’s okay. Try it another day.

Sexual Aversion Disorder

You have an aversion or revulsion to making love.
You have an irrational fear of making love.

Note: You do need a partner for parts of this sex therapy exercise. Do not make love during or after this exercise because it will create anxiety!

Expose yourself to that aspect that you have an aversion to, or an irrational fear of, a little at a time. Move at your own pace. Do not rush yourself. Do not move onto the next step until you are completely comfortable. Be as consistent as is possible. Do the appropriate exercise as often as your partner is agreeable, but still on a regular basis.

Masturbation


1.      Use a lubricant of your choice and begin by gently stroking your genitals.

2.      If you do not feel comfortable, then stop and try another day.

3.      If you do feel comfortable, then continue and masturbate to orgasm.

4.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

5.      Try it another day.


Touch & Oral Sex


You touching your partner’s genitals

 

1.      Begin by getting close to your partner’s genitals.

2.      If you do not feel comfortable, then stop and try another day.

3.      If you do feel comfortable, then lightly touch your partner’s genitals.

4.      Once you feel totally comfortable with this then put your mouth close to your partner’s genitals.

5.      Once you feel totally comfortable with this then put your mouth on your partner’s genitals.

6.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

7.      Try it another day.

Your partner touching your genitals 

 

1.      Begin by letting your partner get close to your genitals.

2.      If you do not feel comfortable, then stop and try another day.

3.      If you do feel comfortable, then let your partner lightly touch your genitals.

4.      Once you feel totally comfortable with this then let your partner put her mouth close to your genitals.

5.      Once you feel totally comfortable with this then let your partner put her mouth on your genitals.

6.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

7.      Try it another day.

Intercourse
 

1.      Begin by getting close to your partner’s genitals.

2.      If you do not feel comfortable, then stop and try another day.

3.      If you do feel comfortable, then place your genitals close to your partner’s genitals.

4.      If you do feel comfortable, then place your genitals on your partner’s genitals.

5.      If you do feel comfortable, then begin to have intercourse.

6.      If you do feel comfortable, then complete intercourse to orgasm.

      7.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.
      8.      Try it another day.

Male Erectile Disorder

You are unable to attain erections when making love.
You have weak erections when making love.
You have erections on and off when making love.
 You are unable to maintain adequate erections to complete intercourse to ejaculation when making love.


Note: You do not need a partner for this sex therapy exercise and it is preferred you do this exercise alone. If you do have a partner, do not make love before, during or after this exercise because it will create anxiety!

1st Step
 

1.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

2.      Stop before you get the feeling to ejaculate.

3.      Stopping means taking your hand away from your penis.

4.      Do not think about sex at all.

5.      You may or may not have an erection.

6.      It’s okay if you don’t.

7.      In time you will.

8.      If you did have an erection, during this stopping time, your erection may go down.

9.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay. Try it another day.


2nd Step
 

1.      Once your erection goes down, put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

2.      Stop before you get the feeling to ejaculate.

3.      Stopping means taking your hand away from your penis.

4.      Do not think about sex at all.

5.      You may or may not have an erection.

6.      It’s okay if you don’t.

7.      In time you will.

8.      If you did have an erection, during this stopping time, your erection may go down.

9.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

10.  Try it another day.


3rd Step
 

1.      Now for the last time, put the lubricant on your penis.

2.      Masturbate to ejaculation.

3.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

4.      Try it another day.


Male Orgasmic Disorder

You are unable to ejaculate when making love.
You get the feeling to ejaculate, but then lose the feeling when making love.



Note: You do not need a partner for this sex therapy exercise and it is preferred you do this exercise alone. If you do have a partner, do not make love before, during or after this exercise because it will create anxiety!
 

1.      Put the lubricant on your penis.

2.      Mentally stimulate yourself.

3.      Masturbate until you ejaculate.

      4.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.
      5.      Try it another day.

Premature Ejaculation

You ejaculate within 5 minutes or less when making love.
You ejaculate before you desire when making love.


Note: You do not need a partner for this sex therapy exercise and it is preferred you do this exercise alone. If you do have a partner, do not make love before, during or after this exercise because it will create anxiety!

1st Start and Stop


1.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

2.      You should get the feeling to ejaculate within 5 minutes or less.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass. 

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

10.  If you ejaculate before this 1st stop, then wait awhile and then try this sex therapy exercise again.

2nd Start and Stop


1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

10.  If you ejaculate before this 2nd stop, then do not try this exercise again in the same day.

11.  To do so may cause you to either have difficulty ejaculating, or be unable to ejaculate.


3rd Start and Stop

 

1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

10.  If you ejaculate before this 3rd stop, then do not try this exercise again in the same day.

11.  To do so may cause you to either have difficulty ejaculating or be unable to ejaculate.


4th Start to Ejaculation
 
 

1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate to ejaculation.

      3.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.
      4.      Try it another day.

Combination Orgasmic Disorder

You take a long time to ejaculate when making love.
You are unable to ejaculate when making love.
You get the feeling to ejaculate, but then lose the feeling when making love.
AND AT OTHER TIMES
You ejaculate within 5 minutes or less when making love.
You ejaculate before you desire when making love.

 

Note: You do not need a partner for this sex therapy exercise and it is preferred you do this exercise alone. If you do have a partner, do not make love before, during or after this exercise because it will create anxiety!

Note: If the Male Orgasmic Disorder happens first or more often, then do that exercise first. If the Premature Ejaculation happens first or more often, then do that exercise first.


Male Orgasmic Disorder 


1.      Put the lubricant on your penis.

2.      Mentally stimulate yourself.

3.      Masturbate until you ejaculate.

4.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

5.      Try it another day.

Premature Ejaculation

For 2 weeks or until you can complete it, do the 1st step and 4th step.


1st Start and Stop

 

1.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

2.      You should get the feeling to ejaculate within 5 minutes or less.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass. 

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

10.  If you ejaculate before this 1st stop, then wait awhile and then try this sex therapy exercise again.


4th Start to Ejaculation

 

1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate to ejaculation.

3.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

4.      Try it another day.

When you have gotten this far, then for the next 2 weeks or until you complete it, do the 1st step, 2nd step  and 4th step.


1st Start and Stop

1.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

2.      You should get the feeling to ejaculate within 5 minutes or less.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass. 

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

10.  If you ejaculate before this 1st stop, then wait awhile and then try this sex therapy exercise again.

2nd Start and Stop


1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

10.  If you ejaculate before this 2nd stop, then do not try this exercise again in the same day.

11.  To do so may cause you to either have difficulty ejaculating, or be unable to ejaculate.

4th Start to Ejaculation


1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate to ejaculation.

3.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

4.      Try it another day.

When you have gotten this far,  then for the next 2 weeks or until you can complete it, do the 1st step, 2nd step, 3rd step and 4th.

1st Start and Stop


1.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

2.      You should get the feeling to ejaculate within 5 minutes or less.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

      9.      Try it another day.
     10. If you ejaculate before this 1st stop, then wait awhile and then try this sex therapy exercise again.


2nd Start and Stop


1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

     10.  If you ejaculate before this 2nd stop, then do not try this exercise again in the same day.
     11.  To do so may cause you to either have difficulty ejaculating, or be unable to ejaculate.

3rd Start and Stop


1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate.

3.      When you get the feeling that you are close to ejaculation, stop.

4.      The way that you stop is to take your hand away from your penis.

5.      Take a couple of deep breaths, and wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

6.      You might lose your erection.

7.      This is normal.

8.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.

9.      Try it another day.

     10.  If you ejaculate before this 3rd stop, then do not try this exercise again in the same day.
     11.  To do so may cause you to either have difficulty ejaculating or be unable to ejaculate.

4th Start to Ejaculation


1.      Wait for the feeling to ejaculate to pass.

2.      Put the lubricant on your penis and masturbate to ejaculation.

      3.      If you do not get that far, it’s okay.
      4.      Try it another day.

Sexual Dysfunctions when Masturbating

You are sexually dysfunctional when you masturbate but not when you make love.

You must first identify and remedy the conflict and then generally your sexual dysfunctions remedy themselves. If they do not, then do the appropriate sex therapy exercise for the sexual dysfunction you are experiencing.


Sexual Dysfunctions when using Condoms

You are sexually dysfunctional only when you use a condom.


Generally it’s because the condom is uncomfortable. Try different condoms to find the one that is the least uncomfortable. Once you do this, than masturbate using the condom until you find a comfort level. Then when you make love with the condom you will be sexually functional.


If this does not happen, you have a conflict which means that you must first identify and remedy the conflict and then generally your sexual dysfunctions remedy themselves. If they do not, then do the appropriate sex therapy exercise for the sexual dysfunction you are experiencing.

Sex Therapy Article
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN IN 1995. THOUGH IT IS OLD AND POSSIBLY OUTDATED, I THOUGHT IT WAS WORTH SHARING.
Not important but my last name was Lozito at the time.




Male Sexuality Article
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN IN 1997. THOUGH IT IS OLD AND POSSIBLY OUTDATED, I THOUGHT IT WAS WORTH SHARING.
Not important but my last name was Lozito at the time.





Sex Therapy Surrogate Services Article
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN IN 1995. THOUGH IT IS OLD AND POSSIBLY OUTDATED, I THOUGHT IT WAS WORTH SHARING.
Not important but my last name was Lozito at the time.






Sex Therapy for Fetishes


Conflict Issues

Fetishes are caused by conflict issues which are psychological struggles within you.

Sex therapy for fetishes begins with being in therapy to identify your conflicts and the reasons why you have these conflicts.

Most times the reason for fetishes is based on having been abused as a child.

Once your conflicts are remedied (e.g. abuse) your fetishes will be remedied.

If you also have sexual dysfunctions they will be remedied also / you can do the appropriate sex therapy exercise for sexual dysfunctions which may help with your anxiety.









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Real stories of abuse.
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This Heart-Steps Therapy will help you to learn to love yourself by repairing your damaged sense of self and distorted belief system of what you believe to be true about yourself and the world. It also will help you to repair your maladaptive coping skills and behavior patterns.

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The Sad Truth about Elder Care
The Sad Truth about Elder Care
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